The Most Important People to Leave Behind.

The Most Important People to Leave Behind.

I want to believe you either wish the year doesn’t end just yet...you were probably warming up to it already, or you actually are asking that it ended yesterday, cause you are really tired and need a break of it. Not that the New Year will give you a vacation, but a new year brings with it good tidings, new vibes, new expectations and of course new hopes. Personally, I sure need the transition to start a new and continue with the positive stuff I had started. 

 

Many are the things that most of us when the year tends to come to its close, we tend to start procrastinating issues for the next year. I remember telling a friend that I’ll start that devotion thing next year afresh...meaning I had tried it sometime, was not working out well enough but I hope the New Year will give me a new footing to it once again. This is not badly off, as long as you have a strategy on how to achieve it better than last year. Otherwise you can’t expect any change in the New Year, if you continue to do things as you were doing last year.

 

About the title…it’s such an irony right? How can important people be left behind? You may be asking. These are important people, yes…very close to us. Actually, our friends and Acquaintances but for some reason, we have to leave them in the past year as we cross over. New things, New Year and new people we could say.

 

The New Year thus comes with its new challenges. Friends, as many joke about it in our social media platforms...the renewing of friendship. Let’s be sincere with ourselves, we all have new networks we made within the year that we wish to keep and even much more closer to our hearts for some of us but others...we just want to unfriendly ASAP and others, well...they are just there! There are a number of them I will encourage you to have them in your list of resolution- to use the delete button on. At least they’ll go to the recycle bin and you shall vet them once again when need be. Others, you will need to permanently delete. Of course I am not talking in literal sense but...let's get to these guys first then you might well understand me better.

 

Negative vibed guys

These are utmost discouragers. Criticism is important in each of our lives because its only through it that we are able to know that we are...human. It’s through criticism that we know we are on track. Criticism shows us life in 3D such that we are not caught by surprise when things don't go as planned. It gives us an opportunity to think further and even get our plan B's. It helps us strategize. Be it positive or negative. However, there is some criticism that is seen in the day light that's meant to pull down. Not for any progress whatsoever but for envy, jealousy and competition. Criticism to declare war with dreams and visions of many. These are the guys who help in the death of our resolutions along the way before we actually see the beauty of their results. Unfortunately, most of those with this kind are the closest to us...just watch out for them and you can send them to the recycle bin first for some just need a direction, a help to also understand themselves and turn their life around. Otherwise, 'kikulacho ki nguoni mwako'.

 

Lazy people

Even the word of God doesn't approve of them. He sends them to a very small animal-the ant to learn of it. Let me not get deeper there for some of us have been the lazy ones. As is said, bad character ruins good morals. You likely became lazy for keeping lazy friends closer. Remedy: work on yourself i.e. your laziness -by finding something to do for instance, then you'll attract the hardworking ones. You'll actually realize they were not far off.

Bad associates

Friendship is a chain. You love one and he /she loves another who you probably know-mutual friends or others you have no idea. We do not choose the friends our friends associate with all we can do is choosing those we befriend. Again, some of our friends could have multi color which is good for survival but ultimately selfish. With this I mean, those closest to us may have a double character one for private consumption and the other for the public eye. One for this crew and another for the other group of friends. A friend once told me that 'marriage is lifetime dating' for even in couples no one gets to know the partner fully. That's the theory of life. So, some of our friends have friends that need to be left behind. How? You ask...and we even don't know them? That character that's rebellious and stubborn that just started growing into your close friend, that's where the uprooting needs to begin. For the proverb was wisely stated 'Show me your friends and I'll tell you your character'.

Schemers

Call them tricky people or just back stabbers. Good friends but real serpents. I'm sorry for using strong terms but...it’s probably the best analogy to have. People who laugh with you today but have itchy mouths and ears ready to spread salt coated information that you shared with them. Salt coated because they have to add or remove key information that actually distorts the fist information conveyed or just takes the secret truth bestowed to them in confidentiality with all the body language to suggest discontentment. You know there's just a way a truth can be presented and you are convinced it’s a lie or just the vice versa. We all have closer friends we confide in, let's be careful-extra cautious in what we share with whom and for what reason. Notwithstanding, those who back stabbed us need to be left behind. Right?!

Hypocrites

These are pretenders and the Britons say they are worse than murders. People who show us we are together and yet they are with our best enemies...don't get me wrong, I do not advocate for enemies whatsoever, but enemies could mean simply negativity and vices. We might think them to be good influence to our children because of their day behaviors for instance but their actions when out of our sight or just out of our reach is questionable. Others are people of great influence... Great leaders who ought to be rebuking evil and encouraging or instilling virtues but they preach water and drink wine while the congregation watches. Or better still, they hide in the sheep's clothing for they are unapologetic wolves. These are friends who make us believe they are for the truth and the right when their believes are on the contrary. People who act out a character in the light. We know them...and we know how bad they put us down or even returned us miles back instead of pushing for our healing and progress. Yes we have met them and need not to carry on with them this coming year.

Complainants

Have you met the 'why this', 'why that' guy? One who never appreciates a thing...even the new day. Ati oh...why is it so sunny/rainy.? These people are unrealistic, UN-pleasable and always contradicting themselves. Today they'll ask you why you did not call them then tomorrow they'll ask you why you called them in the middle of a meeting. They never have answers or solutions. Just questions. When they get the answers it probably will be expired. I hope you are not one of them. Take a moment to praise God, appreciate your family and thank your friends. You'll see...it will be worth it. You'll put a smile in their lips as well as their hearts.

 

These are just a few because we've met more people. Therefore, before going to the next episode, just share with us one or two that you feel I should not have left out. Remember to add your name in your comment or rather as you comment and we will really appreciate.

 

Happy New Year dear Reader!